FACTS
Even before they married, it was clear that in Deja’s world, her family came first. Her family would always come first.
She did not announce it over a loud speaker, she did not paint it on the walls, but anyone who spent time with Deja would be left no doubt that her mother and sister came first in her life and always would.
Perhaps Martin, who wasn’t much of a family guy, did not have the intuition to comprehend. Or as Deja suspected, he was just stupid.
Deja preferred stupid men as partners. This is because stupid people don’t know they are stupid. If they knew they were stupid, they would not be stupid.
Stupid people are the easiest to manipulate. Simply defer to them, let them think they are respected, then do exactly what you please.
If a stupid person confronts;
“Didn’t we agree to paint the kitchen blue?”
after it has been papered in yellow, start to cry.